Should your little one(s) break up with gadgets?
|That's her little cell phone|
Tablets and smart phones are solutions to the hard times of parenting and I'm not going to lie about that. If your kids ever get cranky, grumpy or start to throw tantrums, nursery rhymes and cartoon clips are the best way to shut them up.
Agree with me?
You kinda do the same to your kids? We are in the same boat.
All hail gadgets!
Since motherhood has been a roller coaster ride for me, I find it hard to stick with my decisions at times and this includes giving gadgets to my kids. Before Nuwayrah was born, I was strict about giving Nusaybah gadgets to play with but everything turned upside down when I gave birth Nuwayrah.
Unable to cope with the pressure of my both girls crying at the same time, I gave up my stand on gadgets for children. I even passed both of my smart phone and tablet to Nusaybah, I played youtube videos over and over again for her.
ChuChu TV surprise! Open...open...open..SURPRISE! (-.-")
It's! Baby! Big Mouth! (T_T)
This happened for a little over a year until I realised how pretty bad her beaviour had became. She got easily frustrated especially when she didn't get what she wanted. She also got to the bizzare cartoon clips that were not only bad to her but even us adults. I knew something wasn't right but I didn't think I could survive motherhood without these gadgets. C'mon they are every mom's saviours.
But Alhamdulillah I have been back on track about not giving in to my girls when it comes to gagdets and it all started again after I attended a parenting course in January. The speaker, who is also a children psychologist, explained about the cause of them being cranky being the total control that was given to them through gadgets.
At a very young age (for God's sake, my girl is 3 years old), your little ones had the total power to choose what and how long of a show that they wanted to watch so they do not practise delayed gratification in their behaviour. Meaning that they become Divas who don't wait and this is very unhealthy because they can't filter the good from the bad. It's we who should guide, restrict, and control what they can watch. In fact, children aged 6 and below shouldn't be given screen time at all. Aged 7 and above could tolerate for 1/2 hour per day. It's screen time y'all, which includes everything TV, tablet, smart phones, PS, Wii U, Xbox and the like.
It's true that saying is always easier than done. I too contemplated my ability to carry on with motherhood without my ipad. Who's going to play with my daughter all day long? Who's going to stop her from crying and screaming? Who's going to keep her quiet while I take my nap? How am I going to have a peaceful nap if the ipad isn't with her? She's surely going to jump on me and pull my hand to play masak-masak with her.
|Back then in 2014. Aww my baby was soo baby|
But I believed that I needed to do something. So with the fresh spirit of "coming home from a parenting course", I hid my ipad from my girls. The first few days without it was definitely tough because I couldn't substitute at least some my roles with it anymore. But after a while, we all became accustomed to it. And it's been about 3 months since my ipad went out of battery. I'm so glad that Nusaybah is behaving better now and Alhamdulillah for the strength O Lord.
If you're planning to take the same action but still aren't sure about it, I'd say read more about the bads of gadgets for children because it creates a feeling of urgency to take actions now. But if you're already trying to figure out the means of making it happen, look out for my next entry. I'll share some tips and tricks on breaking your kids up with gadgets because this relationship is absolutely not worth it.